Jami Willis and her husband, Sam, are adoptive parents to a sibling group of three: DeMarcus (10 years old), Shandra (8 years old), and Rosie (3 years old).
This article is reprinted from The Adoptive & Foster Parent Guide: How to Heal Your Child’s Trauma and Loss by Carol Lozier LCSW.
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Today, I was chatting with adoptive mom, Gillian, as she shared her recent experience of being chastised by Alice, her good friend and neighbor. Alice was sharp in her words and tone as she criticized Gillian’s parenting of her eight year old son, Dylan.
In my therapy practice, parents sometimes get stuck in identifying an appropriate consequence for their child.
When an issue arises with your child, how do you address it? Any child who has early grief, loss, abandonment, or trauma will become triggered to any perceived threat of abandonment (being left) or to anything that triggers similar thoughts and feelings to their past trauma.
One of the benefits of working with many children is hearing their stories and seeing the commonalities amongst them.
I met a man today and we struck up a casual conversation. He asked about the types of clients I see.
Logan* is 14 years old. His mom, Linda, received a call from CPS (Child Protective Services) three days following his birth, and the worker said, “I have a baby boy and we can’t find a home for him.
As an attachment therapist, I typically write articles for adoptive and foster parents.
When a parent adopts a child or becomes a foster parent, they give up the luxury of traditional parenting . . .
I don’t believe you set out thinking one day you want a child with special needs...I just think one day it happens to you.
As my daughter and I shop at the mall for our remaining gifts, we eye Christmas ornaments, stocking, lights, and decorations.
Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders or FASD affects 1 in 100 infants each year. FASD is not a genetic condition and is completely preventable . . . if the birth mother does not drink alcohol during her pregnancy, the child is fully protected from the disorder.
Most of the time, parents focus on insecure attachment characteristics, and identifying their child’s particular style.
Today's post is contributed by Megan Terry author of blog, Millions of Miles. Megan is a wife and mother who calls the Louisville, Kentucky area home.
The Secret to Improving Your Child’s Behavior: Behavior Modification Plus Therapeutic Healing (Part Two)
Today’s post is a continuation from part one of “The Secret to Improving Your Child’s Behavior” which posted two weeks ago.
Individuals with a history of trauma or loss may have parts of their personality that protect them through defensive behaviors, thoughts and feelings. Defensive behaviors, thoughts and feelings hide a person’s authentic ones out of fear.
Last weekend I received a call from an adoptive mom, Brenna.
Have you ever noticed that adopted and foster kids are especially cute? Their beautiful eyes, cute noses, and charming smiles often call attention to them and to their family.
How would you describe your community? Do you find most parents and professionals are kind and supportive of you and your family, or do you walk away from situations feeling criticized and demeaned?
Outside the adoption and fostering community parents may expect to
As parents consider therapy for their adopted or foster child, they often consult other families to gather names of potential therapists.
One of the most important skills for a child’s emotional healing is the ability to identify and express emotion. When a child can communicate their internal experience, he or she creates the foundation to alleviate past loss, abandonment, or trauma. When the child connects to caregivers through sensiti
Attachment is the reciprocal energy and unspoken dynamic in a relationship between a parent and child. Available, consistent, and sensitive caregiving forms healthy, secure attachments while inconsistent, insensitive and unavailable caregiving forms insecure or dysfunctional attachments.
Social workers, like every profession, must earn continuing education credits in order to maintain their professional license. This past Friday I went to a new class our profession is required to take, “Pediatric Head Trauma.” To be quite honest, I was not excited to go. Usua
Note: Today’s post is not an attempt to encourage or discourage families from the use of medication. There are many children who already take medicine and there may be families who are considering a trial of medicine; this post is intended to provide information for them.
Hi Friends! I am giving away a beautiful 6 inch doll I bought from a lovely woman at our local Korean grocery.
OLD QUESTION: Does my child have RAD?
NEW QUESTION: What is our (myself and my child) attachment style?
Parents understand their child has grief from past trauma and loss, and often they worry, “Is this a lifelong thing?” Grief resulting from trauma and loss is revisited throughout a person’s lifecycle. Grief may show itself through different symptoms, and may be triggered by v
As a parent, do you worry about and attempt to persuade your child to stop certain behaviors? Do you find yourself pleading, yelling, or becoming frustrated with your child’s choices?
Of course, it is a parent’s job to lead
In a traumatic event, an individual experiences a threat or an assault to their emotional or physical safety or well-being. Trauma can be one large event, ie: natural disaster, physical assault or a series of smaller events, ie: bullying, name calling, intimidating glares.&
It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.
Adopt-a-Village is a small, grassroots non-profit that works with remote villages in Guatemala. This is an area of extreme poverty with few public services or other forms of assistance.
We witness a miracle every time a child enters into life.
But those who make their journey home across time & miles,
growing within the hearts of those who wait to love them,
are carried on the wings of destiny and placed among us
by God's very own hands.
Today's post was submitted from Creating a Family, one of the top adoption education and support organizations in the US.
Here is more information about Creating a Family: Our mission is to help prepare families pre-adoption and then support them post-adoption. All of our r
Today’s guest post was contributed by The Marks Family (all names have been changed to protect their confidentiality). Parents, Susan and Bill, along with older brother, Joseph, adopted Darian at the age of three. Darian had lived in a Guatemalan orphanage from the age of nine months until two
For this week’s post, I decided to review a children’s book. As I was choosing a book, one of my amazing adoptive moms, Beth, offered her newest find-- ”Have You Filled a Bucket Today: A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids.” Together, Beth and I wrote this review. Thanks
Today’s post is written by guest blogger, Liz, who authors the blog, “Inventing My Life.” Liz shares the following information about herself: In the summer of 2007, I turned 40 and decided that I could officially call myself a grown up - so I had better figure out what I wanted to
“If you keep on doing what you've always done, you'll keep on getting what you've always got."
Today’s post is contributed by a guest blogger, Karen Belanger. Ms.
Though the hot, humid days of August are still upon us, summer break will soon end, marking the start of a new school year. This beginning can bring about feelings of anticipation and anxiety for adopted and foster children. Parents can help navigate these first days by steering their child an
Every time I meet a new family, I enjoy getting to know each family member. I delight in hearing their stories: how the parents met, circumstances that led to their adoption, the child’s life story. I am continually amazed at the strength and resilience the children have shown as they faced tr
Glancing at the title of this post, you may be tempted to skip it, “Behavior management is simple –I don’t need to read this.” But don’t underestimate the power of knowing the basics which helps parents to be purposeful in their parenting, and ultimately leads
Today’s guest blogger is Kate Hlava. Kate Terry Hlava lives just outside of Atlanta, GA with her husband, 4 children, 3 dogs, 2 cats and a lizard (who remarkably enough is an invited guest).
Today's guest blogger is Jen Hatmaker. Jen is an adoptive mom, author, blogger, and a leader in the ministry.
“The difference between guilt and shame is very clear—in theory. We feel guilty for what we do. We feel shame for what we are.”
Have you ever been in a situation where your child was triggered, and before your eyes he or she became a “different” or much younger version of him or herself? We all have multiple parts within us . . .
In the adoption and foster care community, there’s a lot of confusion about the differences between Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), trauma, and attachment. Oftentimes, parents hear symptoms associated with RAD and assume their child is RAD. In actuality, m
Our guest blogger is Lori Gertz. Lori makes her living as a strategic marketing consultant, writer, and reiki master and is currently studying to be a homeopath.
Who advocates for your child?
Who is the lead provider or care manager for him or her?
Commonly, parents believe that their child’s pediatrician or another significant professional will guide their medical and mental health care. In actuality, this is often not the case due to e
Welcome today’s guest blogger and adoptive mom, Gem.
Biography of ThreeBecomeFour
My name is Gem and I'm now in my 20s for the third time! My husband, Mike, and I have been together since 1990, having met when I joined his band as a singer. We've been married since 19